By Alicia Chen
A wonderful standing ovation from everyone in the crowd. Thunderous cheers of joy and appreciation uttering out of the mouths of your admirers as you walk up to the podium to accept your award of high honor. Everyone’s eyes locked on you, following your every move and footstep, not missing a single beat. Though this may sound like paradise and a complete dream come true, it is what others see as a nightmare. One where their face burns tomato red under the eyes of spectators that pressure them to do something they never wanted to do. A nightmare that sends the butterflies in their stomach on a high speed chase of nervous and horrified fluttering and causes their heart to pump at an unnaturally elevated rate. Chaos and embarrassment are the only thoughts swirling around their minds.
Most would think that only a heartless soul would want to inject that pain and trauma into someone, but it happens all of the time. People are being lured out of their comfort zones, and into complete panic zones because of others. But these social butterflies that love to have all eyes upon them do not intentionally try to embarrass others. When they are told to celebrate someone else’s accomplishments, their minds automatically turn to what they would love to receive as a congratulation, and they should not be blamed for that. Instead, society and schools should because they drill false information into the minds of millions of kids at a young age. They say treat others the way you want to be treated.
This simple saying seems rather innocent. It is one of the many sayings that stick with people. People throw these phrases around like confetti at a booming party: “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything,” “money doesn’t grow on trees”, and “treat others the way you want to be treated”. The last phrase being the golden rule, which is probably one of the most memorable childhood phrases of them all. But perhaps schools have been teaching kids the wrong life lessons.
While the golden rule applies to some, many people do not want to be treated the way you want to be treated. Maybe if one of your best friends’ pieces of artwork got recognized, your thought of a celebration might automatically turn to throwing them a huge banquet. One where they give a speech about their wonderful accomplishment. But even though that might be what you want, that might not be what your friend wants. Maybe speeches stress them out, and they only wanted a quiet dinner with close family and friends. A banquet might be the last thing they want to be a part of.
The platinum rule may not be as widespread and known as the golden rule, but it should be. The platinum rule states that one should, “do unto others as they’d like done unto them” (Dr. Tony Allessandra). In other words, treat others the way they want to be treated. Distinguishable from the golden rule by just one word that may seem insignificant when first read, but is enough to change the way people perceive the world. We are always told to celebrate each others’ differences, but then we turn around and treat them as if they are our clones that love exactly the same things as us. But the fact that we are all different makes it so much more clear why we should live by the platinum rule. It is because it takes peoples’ differences into account and makes sure that everyone will feel celebrated in the way they want to be celebrated.
Even just as minerals, platinum is much stronger than gold, and this can be carried over to the gold and platinum rules as well. The platinum rule can create a much stronger and better impact on someone’s life when compared to the golden rule because it shows the receive-er of the platinum rule that you took the time to figure out what they liked, and continued onto giving them the best celebration and treatment of their lives. It shows them that you care a lot about them and because of that, it makes an imprint in their life, and they will probably remember that and be thankful for it forever. So do someone a favor, and treat them the way they want to be treated.